Hey, 2016. Youāve been ridiculously tumultuous. From rejections to triumphant happiness, you threw everything at me. You tested my patience and made me even more resilient. You awed and shocked me. 2016, you were a beautiful mess, a complete riot. Yes, you were very difficult, but like all others, you flew by. In retrospect, I’m glad that you were so tough with me. Because of you, I’m a better person today.
Throughout the year I’ve been writing about the lessons I’ve learned, about the things that life so far has taught me. I’ve been cataloging my experiences and desires for all to see (I’m so glad to have found aĀ new hobby in blogging, it’s one of the highlights of 2016). In the same spirit, I’d like to share with you all the last set of learnings for the year.
Prepare to Achieve
You shouldn’t hope to achieve magnificent results if youāre not ready to put in an astonishingly huge amount of hard work into whatever it is that you want to achieve. Do not expect to ace that interview if you havenāt prepared your pitch. Do not complain when you get a lower grade if youāre not even sure what your presentation is about.
DoĀ not say, āOh, she got the job? Maybe it was her lucky day.ā No, her day was as blessed and lucky asĀ yours. She made it serendipitousĀ because she prepared well.
Think about it: if you canāt do yourself a favour and prepare well, why should the universe and the world love you enough to reward you? Donāt be intimidated by hard work. Reflect on rejections. CeaseĀ complaining. Work on yourself. Try again.
You Canāt Change Anyone But You
What if a friend says unkind words to you? What if your boyfriend cheats on you? What if the errant driver curses you? What if the saleswoman looks down upon you? What ifā¦
Itās annoying and frustrating, but you canāt change people. Youāre only allowed to hack and chisel at your own raw form to sculpt the best version of yourself. Period. Yes, negative people have the tendency to upset your harmony and well being; and you may be tempted to āfixā such people. But you canāt. You can only fix yourself to see the situation in a different light so that it doesnāt affect you negatively.
We Are All Good at Different Things
Iām good at math and youāre good at public speaking. Interviews make me nervous while theyāre a cakewalk for you. I paint, you sing. If I you paint youāll do no better than a toddler, and if I sing Iāll make people want to tear their eardrums off. This doesn’t make one of us better than the other; it makes our little world more diverse and beautiful.
Please don’t pitch your talent against mineĀ (it’s like comparing apples with oranges), enjoy the variability. This world needs painters as much as it needs singers, and it values them equally.
Let Go of the Escapist Attitude
If youāre constantly blaming others for your failures and shortcomings, youāll never manage to reach the stars. Successful people take charge of their lives, they control the entire theatre that their life is. Youāll never see them blaming others for their problems. You will, however, see them triumph despite all odds. People who say, “I couldn’t do well because of XYZ or ABC” are doing themselves a disservice and they don’t even know it.
Conclusion: Abandon escapism if you want to win at life.
Talk, Talk, Talk
Come out of your shell and talk to people because thatās the surest way to learn. In todayās tech savvy world, you may read everything there is to read and you may see everything there is to see; but if you donāt actively speak with other people, you shall forever remain deprived of real life learnings and another humanās perspective.
So talk. Talk to as many people as you can and try to find out what amuses them, what drives them, what they like to do and why they like to do what they do. Most answers will surprise you and open your own mind to interpretations and impressions you yourself couldnāt have imagined.
Societyās Standards are Ridiculous
The Societyās a funny thing. It judges if you wear skirts and it judges if you wear kurtis. It frowns and smirks ifĀ youāre 35 and unmarried and it ridicules if youāre 20 and married. It condemns rape andĀ blames the victim. It talks behind your back if you make a lot of money. It also talks behind your back if youāre unemployed.
Oh Society, youāre a crazy breed.
Why must you bother about the insane society? You can’t match Societyās lofty standards anyway. Might as well do your thing (and be ridiculed) rather than hold yourself (and be ridiculed).
When All Else Fails, Thereās family
Friends may come and friends may go but family isĀ forever. Your family will stick with you through thick and thin. Mommy and daddy always, always have your best interests at heart. Theyāll catch you when you falter and fall. Theyāll swell with pride and shower you with kisses when you win. Sure, sometimes they make mistakes: theyāre only human! But theyāll never abandon you. Theyāll always help you figure out the puzzle that life is.
Iāll be moving to Paris for my Masters next year and I have no idea how Iāll survive alone. My family has spoilt me, and the damage is irreversible. Sigh.
To this year, and to the years to come.
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Hey you’re an Indian. Great! Because I am as well. I have been a fan of this blog from a long time. Great post as always! And the point you’ve made about family is SO TRUE. Friends always are so temporary but family is all we need. ā¤ā¤Girl!! You’re flying to Paris??!?? Omg! Masters? In what field?
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Thank you so much! I’m glad you’re able to relate to what I write š
And yes, I am going to Paris to pursue Masters in Management! It’s a dream that’s come true š
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Well, that’s amazeballs ! You’re so witty and smart I’m sure Paris will be a ball. š¼š
It is my dream to study in Paris as well. Good luck š
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Thank you so much! I hope I learn and do well š
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An year like this is definitely an year worth talking about. All the lessons that you learnt this year undoubtedly made you stronger.
Though I don’t know you personally but really happy for the masters you are going to pursue in the coming year. All the best for 2017! š
By the way in which field you are going to do masters?
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Hi, thanks a lot for your wishes. I’ll be pursuing Masters in Management from HEC Paris š
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Does it strike a chord? Oh hell yes, Aeswarya!
Really enjoyed reading the post which lead to frequent smiles and realizations. š
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Hi Arvind, I’m glad you could relate to the post!
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Good life lessons! I am glad to find someone who is like me…in terms of what I think of society!
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Haha, me too! I loved your post š
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Your posts exude positive energy and thoughts reflect a strong personality.
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Hi, thank you. I’m humbled you find my scribblings worthy.
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I loved this!!
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Thanks! Glad you liked it
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You’re welcome! Enjoy your weekend š
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You too, have fun! šÆ
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This post really inspired me. Thank you!
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Thank you for stopping by!
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I really enjoyed reading this post š it reminds me of the challenges 2016 gave me š Worth reading nd beautifully expressed š
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Hi, I’m glad you liked the post. Here’s to the year that made usš¹
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Like to be connected with u š
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Same here š
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I really enjoyed this post…so true life gives us challenges to shapen and strengthen…..Here is to a better 2017š
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Hi Debbie, I’m glad you liked the post! As you said, to an awesome 2017 š¹
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Very well written, I look forward to reading more of your adventures!
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Thank you for the appreciation, means a lot!
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I really enjoyed reading this post š excellent insights and such wise words. Thank you so much for the encouragement and yes, 2017 here we come!
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I’m glad you liked it:)
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In reading this piece, I know that 2016 has molded you into a beautiful and very mature young woman who will take Paris by storm! Congratulations and I’m looking forward to reading all about it in 2017! Good luck, my friend!
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Thank you, thank you so much! I need all the luck I can get and your encouraging words mean a lot.
Let us make 2017 a great one! š¹
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Yes, let’s!!
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