Date a girl who reads. Date a girl who spends her money on books instead of clothes, who has problems with closet space because she has too many books. Date a girl who has a list of books she wants to read, who has had a library card since she was twelve.
Find a girl who reads. You’ll know that she does because she will always have an unread book in her bag. She’s the one lovingly looking over the shelves in the bookstore, the one who quietly cries out when she has found the book she wants. You see that weird chick sniffing the pages of an old book in a secondhand book shop? That’s the reader. They can never resist smelling the pages, especially when they are yellow and worn.
She’s the girl reading while waiting in that coffee shop down the street. If you take a peek at her mug, the non-dairy creamer is floating on top because she’s kind of engrossed already. Lost in a world of the author’s making. Sit down. She might give you a glare, as most girls who read do not like to be interrupted. Ask her if she likes the book.
Buy her another cup of coffee.
Let her know what you really think of Murakami. See if she got through the first chapter of Fellowship. Understand that if she says she understood James Joyce’s Ulysses she’s just saying that to sound intelligent. Ask her if she loves Alice or she would like to be Alice.
It’s easy to date a girl who reads. Give her books for her birthday, for Christmas, for anniversaries. Give her the gift of words, in poetry and in song. Give her Neruda, Pound, Sexton, Cummings. Let her know that you understand that words are love. Understand that she knows the difference between books and reality but by god, she’s going to try to make her life a little like her favorite book. It will never be your fault if she does.
She has to give it a shot somehow.
Lie to her. If she understands syntax, she will understand your need to lie. Behind words are other things: motivation, value, nuance, dialogue. It will not be the end of the world.
Fail her. Because a girl who reads knows that failure always leads up to the climax. Because girls who read understand that all things must come to end, but that you can always write a sequel. That you can begin again and again and still be the hero. That life is meant to have a villain or two.
Why be frightened of everything that you are not? Girls who read understand that people, like characters, develop. Except in the Twilight series.
If you find a girl who reads, keep her close. When you find her up at 2 AM clutching a book to her chest and weeping, make her a cup of tea and hold her. You may lose her for a couple of hours but she will always come back to you. She’ll talk as if the characters in the book are real, because for a while, they always are.
You will propose on a hot air balloon. Or during a rock concert. Or very casually next time she’s sick. Over Skype.
You will smile so hard you will wonder why your heart hasn’t burst and bled out all over your chest yet. You will write the story of your lives, have kids with strange names and even stranger tastes. She will introduce your children to the Cat in the Hat and Aslan, maybe in the same day. You will walk the winters of your old age together and she will recite Keats under her breath while you shake the snow off your boots.
Date a girl who reads because you deserve it. You deserve a girl who can give you the most colorful life imaginable. If you can only give her monotony, and stale hours and half-baked proposals, then you’re better off alone. If you want the world and the worlds beyond it, date a girl who reads.
Or better yet, date a girl who writes.
― Rosemarie Urquico
Wow, I never saw girls like that (maybe more like me) to be seen that way. Thanks for this post, it makes me and my heart smile.
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I’m glad you liked it 🙂
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I did, very much!
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Reblogged this on I think, I say, I do and commented:
I just love this and I think the young ones need to read it so I am re-blogging and thus will be shared on my FB where the young ones roam. 🙂 Although I know it’s not only for the young ones as I am sure there are women who date still 🙂
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Oh this is so lovely! I love it. Great writing. Fantastic post. Thank you. May I please reblog?
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Yes you may, it’s not my writing. It’s by Rosemarie Urquico. All credit goes to her:)
Thank you! 🌸
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I shall mention that. Thank you. 😊
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Amazing post..!! ❤
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Glad you liked it 🙂
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Reblogged this on anotetohuguette and commented:
Perhaps you’ll find yourself in these words, I certainly did! I just had to reblog this post from one of my favourite go-to bloggers.
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❤ ❤
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As an avid reader and writer, I love this piece! Thank you for sharing this lovely read, the perfect words for a quiet Sunday morning.
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I’m so glad you liked it! I love this so much, couldn’t resist posting.
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It’s a magical read especially if we love books, collect books and hang out in second-hand bookstores! My Mom e-mailed me and said that you have a cute blog!
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Wow, that’s a lovely compliment 🙂
A big thanks to your mom 🎀♥️
**bear hug**
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I will let her know! I hope this small note finds you well.
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Reblogged this on femidadaadedina and commented:
Readers are leaders and it is not girl who reads alone, a woman should date a man who reads and perchance writes. Is it the understanding, variety, and intelligence they bring to the table? Readers have open minds and not closed minds and they have a wider horizon about life so they are not boxed into a corner. above all they understand people because they have met many characters and you are not going to be new to them. So get yourself a reader or a reader/writer and make your life more interesting!
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Very well said 🙂 I agree with every word you said!
Thanks for reblogging! ❤
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Loved this!
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This is one of the best things ever written 😁
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Very true, just had to post it! ☺️
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…at a bookstore. I need to spend more time in there 😆😆
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I need to find a girl who reads n writes…blogs maybe…idk. Where can I find her?
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You figured it out already :p
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Haha yes indeed
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🤓😌
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Reblogged this on Rambles of a Bookworm and commented:
Read this on one of my favourite blogs. Couldn’t resist sharing it.
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Aw, thanks for the lovely compliment ❤️
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That boy would be the luckiest . If he finds that girl 😌
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